Oh wow!
Thank you SO much, tashi

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU
Geez, I didn't even realize there IS a tray icon for S&D, for 1. And 2, who would've thought there would be settings associated with a tray icon. And 3, who would've thought settings associated with a tray icon would not also be available elsewhere in the program itself??????
Well, I never really had a chance of figuring this out on my own, did I? You know, I'm beginning to think the geniuses who write computer programs actually do this kind of thing on purpose. It's like they're all back there behind the curtain, sending me on missions I have no hope of completing. Gotta keep 'em confused! And they're all probably back there, watching me in their crystal balls, and having a great laugh at people like me

and all the while, scheming up new tricks to put in new programs, insuring their own entertainment for years and years to come!
Ok, sorry for the rant, just blowing off steam

But seriously, why isn't this in the Help files, or on the Spybot website, or somewhere it can actually be found by users? I mean fine, put the settings in the tray icon, if you must. But at least put instructions for finding them, somewhere the user can actually get to them!
And one more comment, for others who may need the instructions tashi provided. After Exiting Spybot S&D Resident, the icon disappeared from the tray. Since I had practically memorized the Mode > Advanced > Tools > Resident page, while trying to find some way to get this program off the black list, I decided to use that route to re-enabling Tea Timer. But when I got to that page, however, Tea Timer had already been re-enabled. And the icon appeared in the tray, as before. So for me, just opening Spybot S&D enabled Tea Timer.
Anyway, I'm now getting the alerts again and ready to learn this program and use it! Thank you again, tashi! And thanks to everyone else for patience with my impatience! And a special thanks to skittlespc, whose apparently huge network of specialists brought tashi here to help me. You guys are THE BEST!!